Get to know more about Japanese girl

Even though, Japan is located in Asia, doesn't mean they are all the same. Let me explain two characteristics of Japanese people. The first one is similar to other Asian countries.  Japanese people tend to keep their negative emotions inside, meaning if they disagree something, they may not say it out loud. They may not physically express anger or hurt.  If you are from Western civilization, and want to date with a Japanese girl/woman, you should recognize and familiarize this point. Try to not give your opinions too openly, or criticize someone that she knows- you will rarely know whether or not she agrees with you.

The second one is an opposite characteristic compare to other Asian countries. Japanese are quite "independent". They are just like Western society, in an Asian body (perhaps, some are more independent more then Western people). Generally, Asian people are not so independent from their family. They always listen to their family’s opinion, unlike the Japanese culture.

If you are on a date, or with a Japanese woman, avoid speaking about your family business too much. Discussing things like your family issues, problems and personal matters may turn off a Japanese girl. If you are trying to date a Japanese girl, don’t bring up your parent’s career, their salary or your siblings’ life during this time, they are not appropriate conversations. Finally, if you are over 23 and still live with your parents, they may find you very childish and immature.

Japanese girls dating survey

Recently I’ve been quite busy, and haven’t had much time to write any articles. That being said, I have sat down with some Japanese friends who have helped me, by completing a survey. The survey is about the expectation of Japanese girls, based on different ages and home town. The results are quite interesting!

The survey question includes
1. What type of restaurant you prefer?
2. What kind of atmosphere do you like in the restaurant?
3. What dish might you order?
4. What drink might you have?
5. What can a man do to make you feel comfortable and relaxed?
6. Do you expect a gift?
7. Where is your home-town?

And here are the answers.

Asamisan (21)
1. Italian, Buffet
2. Nice, Cozy
3. Calbonala- Share dish.
4. Drink bar
5. Act like a friend.
6. No need for first time.
7. Tokyo

Mikasan (23)

1. Italian, New or popular restaurant.

2. Romantic.

3. Seafood.

4. Beer/Wine.

5. Smart/Polite

6. Perhaps Flower or a cute accessory

7. Tokyo

Naokosan (27)

1. Anything but best in town

2. Private

3. Cheese, Seafood, many small dishes

4. Cocktail/Wine

5. Smart/Funny

6. No need

7. Osaka

Sachisan (31)

1. Anything delicious

2. Any kind

3. Depends on restaurant and atmosphere 

4. Cocktail/Wine

5. Independent/Smart

6. No need

7. Yokohama

Tomosan (35)

1. Famous bar or restaurant in a Hotel

2. Luxury/Formal 

3. Small dishes

4. Wine

5. Beauty (mind)/ Funny

6. Flower or nothing is fine

7. Tokyo

After I checked the results, I noticed a common thing on their list was wine. From my own experience, Japanese girls definitely love wine. Perhaps those in the winery profession may have an advantage when wanting to date a Japanese girl! All the best guys!

What type of guy is "cool" for a Japanese girl

Like I mentioned in the previous topic, I'm going to tell you about what kind of guy Japanese girls like. First, if you want to date a Japanese girl, you have to be man enough to stand on your own early in life. This doesn’t mean you have to have had a tough life to impress the girl. It simply means you have to look more mature for your age, and not just wanting to play around.

According to Japanese culture, people are quite serious about responsibility. Many parents teach their kids to stand by their own feet at an early age (my wife had part-time job when she was 16). Many kids leave their home when they are only 18 to get their own place and start looking for a job.

I shall give you an example of a cool guy to date a Japanese girl. His name is Hidesan (Mr.Hi-de), and he is now my cousin in-law. He is currently about 30 years old now. I had the chance to meet him for first time in New-Zealand, where he was visiting to get in some snowboarding. Afterwards, he was heading to Australia, then Thailand after that (this guy travels a lot). The more I got to know him, the more I think his story and character is quite interesting.

My wife really respects him as a role model, and she told me his story. Hidesan decided to leave his parents when he was just 18. It wasn't a tragedy; they didn't have a big fight or some kind of trouble. He just felt he was a bother to his parents. He left home, found an apartment, and a job working as a newspaper carrier while he was in university. Hidesan is very enthusiastic about life. He has never stopped moving his ass. He works hard during the week, plays hard on weekend, and has many friends and a great social life. Moreover, he is very polite.

Even talking to his cousin he uses "watashi" every time, meaning "I" in a formal way. Nevertheless, the reason I respect him most is, he is very "modest". In the conversation he has never shown off his potential, which he has tons. Never underestimate or misjudge someone, especially you guys who want to date a Japanese girl. Don’t be cocky in front of her, Japanese people are modest; they never say they are the best- like some countries. They normally compliment others, but never themselves. So, if you don't act like they are accustomed to; your date may feel incredibly uncomfortable.

In conclusion, the three most important words to remember are; Polite, Gentle and Modest. Remember this always and you can date a Japanese girl with confidence. It may even go so well, your date may text message you with a “Thank you for tonight, I had a wonderful time”! Good luck guys!

PS: To the ladies that read my blog, if you’re in Tokyo and would like to get to know Hidesan more, he’s single and looking! Just contact me, and I can get you all sorted out! (Please keep in mind his English is limited).

Where did I meet my lovely wife

Let’s get one thing straight, you didn’t read that incorrectly “my lovely wife” is actually the absolute truth! I have been living with my Japanese wife for about a year now- and our love has never been stronger! Currently, we live in Bangkok, however this is not the city I met her. I began to date a Japanese girl in the romantic and magical town of Christchurch. Christchurch is located in South Island, New-Zealand.

It all began on Friday May 18^th 2007, when I was studying English at the GEOZ language school. I had known who she was from a friend on mine, who was in her class, and studied along side her. With my previous history, I would have never asked a stranger for a date, so this was officially the first- and last time I was ever brave enough to talk to someone like her. I had always wanted to date a Japanese girl, and when she approached me at school, I knew I had to ask her.

I will never forget that day; she was wearing a dark blue t-shirt, jeans and white sneakers. I will never forget her beautiful smile- yes, she actually smiled at me! (She smiled at everyone as she was a very sweet lady).When I saw her again that afternoon in front of the school, I walked over to her and began talking to her. I have no idea what I was thinking, but I never hesitated in talking to her.

The moment was absolutely perfect, and the place was stunningly significant in my eyes. I politely introduced myself, and explained that I was a friend of her classmate. At the time, my English was better than hers, so I started off with simple and easy conversation, so she didn’t feel awkward. She then introduced herself, and gave me that unforgettable smile. She said she was waiting for a friend, and I decided to help her kill the time, and talk to her. We had a very friendly conversation, and I never thought it would ever turn into anything more than that, especially not having to date a Japanese girl. Before we went our separate ways, we exchanged phone numbers, and I couldn’t help but smile- I had just accomplished the bravest thing of my life.

PS: Not to worry guys, this isn’t my only post! Next time I’ll let you know what type of guy Japanese girl’s thing are Sukoi (cool)!

Christchurch Bridge of Remembrance. Where I met her.

Who am I

I’m just an ordinary guy, who married an amazing Japanese woman. I would love to help you understand through my knowledge and experience, everything you possibly can to understand Japanese women. I would like to take my experience, and help you learn everything you need to date a Japanese girl.

I have also created this blog to share my experiences from abroad; the relationships with friends I have made and the amazing partner I have found, despite a difference in country, language and culture.